Social Conformity a Key Driver Of Your Experience

What is the most potent key driver of your experience? Why is it the most potent? It's because it's invisible in your daily life, but yet it's driving your life and it's hard to control because like a fish in the water, you are always bathing in it.

And that driver is one thing, social conformity. And so today I'm going to share with you three powerful aspects of this driver that will allow you to take charge of this driver. I am coach soul welcome to our performance edge weekly wisdom so, today we are going to talk about one of the most important key driver of your experience, which is social conformity.

Well, before, we'll see first why it is the most potent driver of your experience. Second, we'll address how it's everywhere and how by raising your awareness, you'll be able to see social conformity at work in your life. And third, I'll give you a trick that will help you to take charge of social conformity as a key driver.

You ready? Let's jump in before we dig deeper. I want to make sure that you saw the first video of a key driver on the first key driver which was self projection. If you didn't see it yet, I highly recommend you go see it and go check it out. Now, let's come back to our original topic.

Why social conformity is one of the most potent, powerful key driver of your experience. It's one word invisible. Yes. Social conformity is an invisible driver, meaning it's everywhere and it permeates almost all aspects of your life. And that's what makes it harder to discern because like a fish in the water, that's what we know.

And unless we can elevate our vantage points, we can spend our lives without being aware of his driver. That's what makes it the most potent. So, let's understand what it is first. So the the main reason why it's hard to be aware of the social conformity it is because human beings are social creatures. So, in order to survive and even thrive, we need social groups and social gathering back in the day as cavemen and cave women.

If we didn't unite as a species with dinosaurs or other bigger species will have made of us just a food or made us disappear. So with those basics, when you have gathering in groups, the natural thing, the next thing is group norms or specifically social norms that get formed so that the group can remain alive.

So social norms are at the basis of social conformity. But now I want you to pay attention here is the biggest discernment. I need you to pay attention to; if social norms are at the basis of social conformity, it's not necessarily the same thing. But that's the biggest problem we have to understand in this key driver because social norm is not necessarily equal to social conformity.

Social norms exist for the necessary survival of a group for which the norms were created for meaning, it's beneficial for all concerns as a whole and as unity, it's flourishing for all that are part of it, they benefit from it, example, in a boat, if you're a captain, in a boat, there is a captain and his crew, sailing from one port to another port, and so the captain and his crew, each of them have a role and function.

So, they serve a bigger purpose of getting from one port to the next destination and they need to survive. And so there are norms that are created within that group, within being in the ship, the captain leads and you know, has a compass and all that, so, it is the same thing whenever a group gather, so now that's where social norms are created.

Now, social conformity has inherently social norms element in it. But here is a key, it's not necessarily beneficial to all concerns. Why? Because social conformity doesn't necessarily benefits all concern - for example, when you got gangs, adherence or peer pressure that push people to do things that, that might not benefit them or in the long run, right? Or for example, in some social circles where you need to take drugs or you need to drink or you need to smoke when you are in some social gathering.

But what if you don't want to do those things and you decide to do it? This is an obvious example because you want to join the group. So I'm sharing here an example, an obvious example because it's easy to see that one. But let's go further. Have you heard of keeping the joneses?

What is that? Keeping with joneses. What is that? If not a self imposed social conformity? What is keeping the joneess if not an invisible peer pressure? If you still doubt I'm inviting you to pause for a second and reflect isn't what the marketer use in many instances.

They leverage a human need for significance and a human need to belong. We need to get that last phone, we need to get that last watch. They need to get the last car, not even necessarily because of the new functionality, but because of the status those new things provides in a group you belong to.

So here is a performance edge wisdom for you right now. It is a key- you ready? You need to discern and you need to disconnect the difference between social norms versus social conformity. How you do that? The way you do it through a powerful question and awareness. It's this question.

What am I supposed to adhere to so ,what am I supposed to adhere to or conform to? Does it benefit my higher self and of a group? It has to be an "and" meaning it has to be beneficial to all concerned because if it's not, it means you are social conforming and if you want to be at ease, just remember, the social norms is what is at the basis of a group well being and it's not social conformity.

In other words, that's where your freedom to choose and your freedom to excel exist. It's within the window of social norm and social conformity. It's within that gap that you are given the gift to express your talent, to express your interest and what matter to you. Now, why is that important?

Let me bring it down to reality example, in many communities, people are told go to school, get good grades, get a good job, be a good employee, get married and have a lot of children, it's a simple example. But this is a relevant example because what I just described is within a cultural paradigm and which seems there are a lot of assumptions built in that in this blueprint I just shared going to school and you know, all the way getting kids.

So the challenge and tension arise when you deviate from this script of this blueprint. For example, if you don't marry a certain age, there is this invisible social conformity or pressure that you are tempted to adhere to? So for example, if you were brought up to get married before 30 is choose a partner before you have been told to marry before 30 your choice might not have been the best choice for you at that moment.

But on the other hand, if you did ask yourself that performance edge question, you remember, is this in alignment to my and in the benefit of my higher self, of my partner who I want to marry with? So, that highest question, that performance edge question will govern your decision.

It's a simple example, but I hope you can extrapolate to everything else because this can be a subject of a book. And I want to wrap up here and summarize why social conformity is one of the most powerful key driver of your life in your experience, so what we viewed the different aspects of social conformity.

Why? Because it's invisible and it's it's hard to put your finger on it. So the difficulties stem from the fact that people are not making a difference between social norm and social conformity and that is very important because you know, we saw that making that difference. Here lies your power to express your talents by asking the performance edge question, you take back control of your decision, you take back of that driving seat and I can talk about this more.

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